You are not “responsible” for “fixing” or teaching another grown-up anything Some women get really triggered by this concept. And considering the huge misunderstanding we’ve all been submerged in for years, this is true. But like with anything, you can get stuck on this concept, or you can realize that it can change in different circumstances. The 2 box method explains how we can help our partners and show them they don’t have to be in such mental distress. This helps them become the men we need them to be See it here. Why I don’t have a problem “teaching” a grown man to function He never asked to be…
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Part 4- Why this theory has the potential to help all Mannies
The common thread, the center of it all -Manual Brain Processing. *Please note I am attempting to simplify the most abstract of concepts, not intending to generalize* THIS IS THE ONE thing that BINDS ALL MANNIES TO THE SPECTRUM. This is why I believe this theory can be applied to EVERY Aspergers. If they do not manually operate their brains, they are not on the spectrum and they Have an automatic (Neurotypical) brain. That’s the one thing that ties them all together. They all have different symptoms, behaviors and levels of functioning, but THIS is the one that ties them to the spectrum. The thing that makes it hard, is…
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Part 3- When an Manny falls in love- An Epic love story
Here’s a super simplified story about this 2 box theory that blew our minds on Sunday. Because the common thread in Mannies is their social impairments that requires so much extra energy to communicate, at their core for mental energy they’ve come up with a “mental energy budget.” The brain in distress shuts down and only keeps what it understands while rejecting what it doesn’t. So they absorb (sort) everything from 2 boxes. Only keeping information that’s necessary and sensible, and discarding as often as possible (not necessary, trash bin files) Necessary-What is relevant, sensible and purposeful. Things here would be special interests, mentally Affordable things (ex: math is mentally…
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Part 2- How we have Approached Mannies WRONG all this time.
Since my brain explosion, I have been searching for scenarios in my life where it can apply, I haven’t found one yet that I can’t translate. I hadn’t tried to apply it to my youngest until this morning when he had a meltdown over going to school. I put it to the test. While applying it, I came to the realization just how WRONG I had been all this time and how with this new knowledge, I was finally going to be able to give my child the tools he needed to function. The Best Intentions We’ve all had the best intentions with our Manny loved ones. Our goal is…
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Part 1- Bridging the Gap-Automating the Manual Processor- The experience that changed our lives
*Edited in May 2020 Its been months since we’ve had our discovery and each day we face more issues that can always get boiled down to this theory. It’s been paramount for me in having peace of mind, in my husband feeling understood and seen, and for healing our marriage from the YEARS of complete and total misunderstandings and miscommunications. My next mission is to see how I can apply and help my two sons. Because for the first time, I can finally put into perspective just how HARD the journey ahead will be for them, and I want to give them every tool I can so they can be…